The Story of My Father

Abridged
Author: Sue Miller
Narrator: Sue Miller
Genres: Biographies, Health, Body & Mind, Disorders & Diseases
Publisher: Random House (Audio)
Date: March 2003
Length: 6 hours
Ratings:
  • Book Rating: 3.5/5
Formats:
  • CD

Overview

In the fall of 1988, Sue Miller found herself caring for her father as he slipped into the grasp of Alzheimer's disease. She was, she claims, perhaps the least constitutionally suited of all her siblings to be in the role in which she suddenly found herself, and in The Story of My Father she grapples with the haunting memories of those final months and the larger narrative of her father's life. With compassion, self-scrutiny, and an urgency born of her own yearning to rescue her father's memory from the disorder and oblivion that marked his dying and death, Sue Miller takes us on an intensely personal journey that becomes, by virtue of her enormous gifts of observation, perception, and literary precision, a universal story of fathers and daughters.

James Nichols was a fourth-generation minister, a retired professor from Princeton Theological Seminary. Sue Miller brings her father brilliantly to life in these pages-his religious faith, his endless patience with his children, his gaiety and willingness to delight in the ridiculous, his singular gifts as a listener, and the rituals of church life that stayed with him through his final days. She recalls the bitter irony of watching him, a church historian, wrestle with a disease that inexorably lays waste to notions of time, history, and meaning. She recounts her struggle with doctors, her deep ambivalence about many of her own choices, and the difficulty of finding, continually, the humane and moral response to a disease whose special cruelty it is to dissolve particularities and to diminish, in so many ways, the humanity of those it strikes. She reflects, unforgettably, on the variable nature of memory, the paradox of trying to weave a truthful narrative from the threads of a dissolving life. And she offers stunning insight into her own life as both a daughter and a writer, two roles that swell together here in a poignant meditation on the consolations of storytelling.

With the care, restraint, and consummate skill that define her beloved and best-selling fiction, Sue Miller now gives us a rigorous, compassionate inventory of two lives, in a memoir destined to offer comfort to all sons and daughters struggling-as we all eventually must-to make peace with their fathers and with themselves.

Reviews (2)

Story of My Father

Written by Annabel Link on June 6th, 2006

  • Book Rating: 5/5

What an amazingly well written story, one which would be extremely helpful reading for anyone involved with the care of a relative or friend with Alzheimer's. Sue Miller captures the guilt, fear, and stress of caring for her father, but also some of the joy and sweetness in her relationship with him. The stories of her family before and after her father's illness provide a clear picture of a very talented man and the dementia that gradually and tragically robbed him of his memory and tormented him with the demons of paranoia. Miller's patience and resourcefulness in the middle of such a challenge were both admirable and instructive in how to be an advocate for a loved one who is afflicted with the same disease. The love of a daughter for her father shines brilliantly throughout the story.

eye-opening for me

Written by Anonymous from Auburndale, MA on May 11th, 2005

  • Book Rating: 5/5

I truly enjoyed (although the story is of course sad) listening to the author tell the story of her father's struggle with Alzheimer's. I had not had any personal experience with Alzheimers so this was also very educational for me. I always recommend it when I find out my friends' families are impacted by Alzheimer's.

Author Details

Author Details

Miller, Sue

Sue Miller was born in Chicago in 1943, the second of four children in an academic and ecclesiastical family. She grew up reading, writing, and dancing to 50's rhythm and blues in Hyde Park, and went to college at Harvard. She was married at twenty, shortly after she graduated, and held a series of odd jobs until her son Ben was born in 1968. She separated from her first husband in 1971, and for thirteen years was a single parent in Cambridge, Massachusetts, working in day care, taking in roomers, studying the piano, and writing with increasing focus.

Sue Miller's first story was published in 1981. Since then, she has taught in various writing programs in the Boston area. In 1983-84 Sue Miller had a Bunting Fellowship at Radcliffe, which led her to the publication of her first novel, THE GOOD MOTHER. She finished the novel in 1985, it was published 1986, and was quickly followed by a collection of short stories. In the 90s she published FAMILY PICTURES, FOR LOVE, THE DISTINGUISHED GUEST, and WHILE I WAS GONE. She is currently writing a memoir about her father's death from Alzheimer's disease.

Sue Miller was married in 1985 to the writer Douglas Bauer. They are now divorced. After living in Boston for 12 years, Sue Miller returned this spring to Cambridge, which she refers to as the land of many bookstores.