He's Just Not That Into You

Unabridged
Author: Greg Behrendt
Narrator: Liz Tuccillo
Genres: Health & Fitness, Relationships, Health, Body & Mind
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Date: November 2004
Length: 3 hours, 29 minutes
Ratings:
Formats:
  • MP3

Overview

He says:

Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.

She says:

There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic.

For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be He's just not that into you.

Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you."

He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.

Reviews (21)

I just wasn't that into it.

Written by Vanessa on January 19th, 2008

  • Book Rating: 2/5

I was recommended this book by a few girl friends, and so was looking forward to the insight into my relationships that it would offer. After the first chapter I could pretty much predict the rest, and didn't need to complete the audiobook (although I did). The advice is commonsense, and not particularly liberating or earth shattering if you don't already think of yourself as irresistible to everyone you meet. It's more of a reinforcement than a revelation.

The advice is great!

Written by Anonymous from Woodbridge, NJ on November 27th, 2007

  • Book Rating: 4/5

I just was curious to see what advice was in this book. It sounded good but actually the advice is great. It helped me to understand some of the guys I dated that were a little weird. But the authors are right, when a man loves you he goes out of his way to see you, make you happy, cares for your well being, and finds ways to enrich your life which is the exact description of my husband of four years. Of all the guys I dated he is the only one who didn't have mental baggage or a big lack of maturity or some other problem. So dreams do come true as long as your patient and keep plugging. After all, I bagged my guitar player!!

Where was this book

Written by Catherine Copeland on July 14th, 2007

  • Book Rating: 5/5

Where was this book when I was sixteen and beginning to date. Heck where was this book when I met my first husband. Talk about wasting my pretty. I begged, chased, cajoled, and finally won the big prize. The booby prize that is. I am thinking about buying a copy for each of my nieces as they head off for college. I wish I'd had a friend at the factory like this guy.

He's Just Not That Into You

Written by Anonymous from Burleson, TX on June 16th, 2007

  • Book Rating: 1/5

Really redundant. Very plain. Not interesting. Not enlightening. Would not recommend. Worthless.

Truth or Fiction?

Written by Anonymous on October 4th, 2006

  • Book Rating: 3/5

While a few of the examples were a bit much, it's heart was in the right place. Entertaining and could be a light bulb moment for a few women I know.

He's Just Not That Into You

Written by Loren on March 19th, 2006

  • Book Rating: 4/5

The format of the delivery was confusing to listen to at first, but once I understand what's going on, then I enjoyed listening to it. It's funny and clever. I actually have a copy of the CD and am now lending it to my single sister =)

He's just not that into you

Written by Kathleen Russac on March 3rd, 2006

  • Book Rating: 3/5

While somewhat entertaining, it was quite repetitive and could have been half as long. I could relate a few examples to friends' experiences.

Couldn't make it through the first 5 minutes...

Written by AC on January 21st, 2006

  • Book Rating: 1/5

I can handle some "chick lit" but this was absolutely awful. I never read the book and definitely won't (by choice). Sent it back as quickly as I possibly could.

He's Just Not That Into You

Written by Cynthia McNulty on November 1st, 2005

  • Book Rating: 5/5

So true, funny, a crass, and very helpful! I highly recommend it to any single American gal. It will save you time and energy and pain as you date.

He Has His Own Agenda - Live With It Or Move On!

Written by Kim Todd on October 4th, 2005

  • Book Rating: 4/5

Every woman in a dating situation should read this book. It is a bit repetitive and a bit long but it drills into your head that you don't need to be treated like crap and you ARE worth a decent relationship! Some of us need more reminding than others......