Fear and Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling The Anxiety, Fear and Shame That Keep us From Optimal Living and Loving

Version: Unabridged
Author: Harriet Lerner
Narrator: Harriet Lerner
Genres: Non-Fiction, Self Development, Health & Wellness, Psychology
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Published In: May 2004
# of Units: 3 CDs
Length: 3 hours
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Overview

Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions.

Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us.

We learn:

* How a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story
* How the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized
* How to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate
* How to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace
* How to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss

* How "positive thinking" helps -- and harms

* How to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others

No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can't avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

Reviews (3)

Fear and Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling The Anxiety, Fear and Shame That Keep us From Optimal Living and Loving

Written by Nicoline Mayger from Tucson, AZ on May 19th, 2006

  • Book Rating: 5/5

Excellent book and true to it's title - as a therapist I am able to help many clients to pass on her message - liked it so much that I went out and bought the book -

Harriet Lerner's books are always of interest

Written by J. Richards from Plaster Rock, NB on August 15th, 2005

  • Book Rating: 4/5

I always find Harriet Lerner's books insightful and interesting. This book was no exception. Dr. Lerner explains her terms clearly, and then moves into a case study. After she talks about a specific situation, she talks about how she was able to help the people involved. She gives you tools to help you analyze your situation, and gives you ideas on how to cope. I found the section on workplace stress especially interesting, as I have just gone through a very stressful situation at my job. My only complaint is with the audio. Dr. Lerner tends to be louder at the beginning of her sentences, and then lowers her voice at the end of the sentence. I found that in order to hear the end of the sentence, I had to turn the volume up so far that the beginning of the sentence was too loud. Still, I enjoyed listening to the voice of an author I have long admired.

starts slow, but gets better

Written by Anonymous from Mountain View, CA on March 1st, 2005

  • Book Rating: 4/5

The books starts slow, with the author reading in a monotone, apparently not saying much of anything. However, by the end of the book I found her ideas insightful and her voice interesting.

Author Details

Author Details

Lerner, Harriet

"Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is one of our nation?s most respected voices on the psychology of women and the process of change in families. A clinical psychologist at the Menninger Clinic for over two decades, she is the author of many books including The New York Times bestseller, The Dance of Anger, Women in Therapy and The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life. A prolific scholar, renowned lecturer, consultant and psychotherapist, Lerner was the advice columnist for New Women magazine for more than a decade. She is also an award-winning children?s book writer."