How We Fight for Our Lives: A Memoir

Version: Unabridged
Author: Saeed Jones
Narrator: Saeed Jones
Genres: Biography & Memoir
Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
Published In: October 2019
# of Units: 5 CDs
Length: 5 hours
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**A 2019 KIRKUS PRIZE FINALIST** "A coming-of-age memoir marks the emergence of a major literary voice...Masterful." --Kirkus Reviews (starred review) "An astonishing, unparalleled memoir...A rhapsody in the truest sense of the word." --Roxane Gay "Every single living half-grown and grown-up body needs to read this book." --Jacqueline Woodson One of the most anticipated books of Fall 2019--as selected by O, The Oprah Magazine; Marie Claire; Entertainment Weekly; Time; The Millions; Parade; Library Journal; Booklist; Refinery29; Pacific Standard; Good Housekeeping; Nylon; Pacific Standard; Goodreads; and more."People don't just happen," writes Saeed Jones. "We sacrifice former versions of ourselves. We sacrifice the people who dared to raise us. The 'I' it seems doesn't exist until we are able to say, 'I am no longer yours.'" Haunted and haunting, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming-of-age memoir. Jones tells the story of a young, black, gay man from the South as he fights to carve out a place for himself, within his family, within his country, within his own hopes, desires, and fears. Through a series of vignettes that chart a course across the American landscape, Jones draws readers into his boyhood and adolescence--into tumultuous relationships with his family, into passing flings with lovers, friends, and strangers. Each piece builds into a larger examination of race and queerness, power and vulnerability, love and grief: a portrait of what we all do for one another--and to one another--as we fight to become ourselves. An award-winning poet, Jones has developed a style that's as beautiful as it is powerful--a voice that's by turns a river, a blues, and a nightscape set ablaze. How We Fight for Our Lives is a one-of-a-kind memoir and a book that cements Saeed Jones as an essential writer for our time.

Reviews (1)

Written by Lopi W. on January 7th, 2020

  • Book Rating: 5/5

This is an amazing book! The more I read the more absorbed in the events and love and self discovery I became. A very unique memoir that is about both the things in life that are big and passionate and the details of everyday and relationships. About the things that are uncertain and the things that are certain. The writing is captivating and I appreciated it so much. There were many moments that a sentence would be so consuming and perfect that I would have to pause and think about just that sentence. When I read the final sentence I knew that I would remember this story and the lessons for a long time to come.

Author Details

Author Details

Jones, Saeed

Saeed Jones is the author of Prelude to Bruise, winner of the 2015 PEN/Joyce Osterweil Award for Poetry and the 2015 Stonewall Book Award/Barbara Gittings Literature Award. The poetry collection was also a finalist for the 2015 National Book Critics Circle Award, as well as awards from Lambda Literary and the Publishing Triangle in 2015. Jones is a co-host of BuzzFeed's morning show, AM to DM, and previously served as BuzzFeed's LGBT editor and Culture editor. Jones was born in Memphis, Tennessee, and grew up in Lewisville, Texas. He earned a BA at Western Kentucky University a